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Our perceptions do not accurately reflect reality. If we saw what was really in the mirror we would see ourselves as much more beautiful, capable, and strong. My hope is to reflect vague pieces of truth about ourselves, our experiences, and the people we love. These thoughts will be reflected without mirrors so the true beauty of life can confidently stare back at us through the haze.

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The Pursuit is Happiness

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"Vivere militare est" - To live is to fight - Seneca


There is an important difference between being comfortable and being happy. Unfortunately, most of us make the mistake of using the word "happy" to describe comfort and convenience rather than fulfillment. We believe that a nicer house, a different job, a bigger closet, better weather, a better car, or nicer clothes would help us be happier. In reality, most of our wants only help us be more comfortable or add a little more convenience to our daily routine.

Many people have convinced themselves that they are happiest when things are easiest. If you believe this you are heading for disaster! Expecting life to get easier and happier as time goes on or as you achieve X, Y, and Z will inevitably disappoint you!

This is because our lives will ALWAYS be filled with struggle no matter how "comfortable" we believe we are or will one day be. Once you get that brand new house, your dishwasher might break or the …

The Weekend Miracle

This weekend I experienced a miracle. As with most miracles, you probably would need to see it to believe it.


"Recall the new star that announced the birth at Bethlehem? It was in its precise orbit long before it so shone. We are likewise placed in human orbits to illuminate."

                    Neil A. Maxwell

Katelyn, Ridge, and I went to City Creek, Gateway, and Temple Square on Saturday. After a few hours of roaming and enjoying our time together we decided it was time to head back to our car.

We approached the crosswalk and as the numbers counted down "6, 5, 4, 3" and we started to run. When we got to the corner we decided to wait until the next light since we weren't really in a hurry. After a short wait, the walking signal reappeared and we crossed the street casually as the familiar, timed chirp of the crosswalk accompanied us. We were carried away in a pointless conversation speculating the origin of jay walking when the miracle happened.

It wasn'…

Shooting Through a Sky of Fallen Stars

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"We are travelers on a cosmic journey, stardust, swirling and dancing in the eddies and whirlpools of infinity. Life is eternal. We have stopped for a moment to encounter each other, to meet, to love, to share. This is a precious moment. It is a little parenthesis in eternity."
Paulo Coelho - The Alchemist

When a large piece of space-matter comes into contact with the Earth's atmosphere there is a streak of light that flashes in the night sky. The matter burns as it falls and from below we see a trail of dissolving, blazing, burning mass above us. As the mass disintegrates its remnants are spread through the sky in a dark and delicate descent. It's former life as a glorious flying rock has been forgotten as it has transformed into nothing more than dust. That flying piece of space-matter did not cease to exist, it simply changed form. It changed from a large piece of celestial brightness to invisible, falling dust. 
Today, on May 8th, I will be married. The most beautif…

Humility, Gratitude, and the Danger of Expectation

"We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake, not by mechanical aids, but by an infinite expectation of the dawn, which does not forsake us in our soundest sleep. I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by a conscious endeavor. It is something to be able to paint a particular picture, or to carve a statue, and so to make a few objects beautiful; but it is far more glorious to carve and paint the very atmosphere and medium through which we look, which morally we can do. To affect the quality of the day, that is the highest of arts."
Henry David Thoreau, Walden
A few weeks ago a friend of mine called me from college. She had just moved to a new city, chosen a new major, and was trying to make new friends. This is an unsettling (and exciting) experience for anyone. She began to tell me about her frustrations. Needless to say, she was having a hard time. I noticed that the word "should" was used in almost ev…

The Earth is Crammed With Heaven

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"The Earth is crammed with heaven, and every common bush afire with God; but only he who sees, takes off his shoes. The rest sit round it and pluck blackberries." -Elizabeth Barrett Browning

If you believe in God, you believe in a creator. A being so intelligent that He was able to organize this Earth. An Earth in which every piece is beyond any one person's understanding. People spend their entire lives becoming an expert on one piece of this creation and they still have unanswered questions. If you believe in God, you believe in a being that intelligent. 
Why then, do the believers often question God's ability to make their life beautiful? If he can create a world as complex as this, then why do we hesitate to put our trust in him? Why do we wonder why something happened? Why do we wonder when something different will come? Why do we think that our expectations and plans must always be fulfilled according to our own will? Why do we question a being that intelligent?…

One Step Enough, For Me

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This is a picture of a Cairn in the Uinta Mountains; I took it on my way up King’s Peak this weekend.



Cairns are found along many different types of trails to mark where to go. As I’ve climbed a number of mountains this summer I’ve seen thousands of different Cairns along many trails. All have guided me to the peak.
As does every college student, graduate, and aspiring adult, I have wondered what my path is, and what direction I should head. I’ve made a lot of decisions over the past year that I’ve felt right about, but most of those decisions only led me to other decisions. Then my complete plan (which I had felt good about) was quickly overthrown. With each decision I felt “this is my destiny, this is the right thing.” Obviously, each of those things weren’t my "destiny." But really, when I look back, each decision was right enough to get me to the next decision.
Hikers rely on Cairns to guide them up mountains they haven’t been to. The Cairns are usually spread apart ju…

Truly Valuing Life as a Single Adult

Too often we fall into the trap of seeing our experiences as all-or-nothing. We might believe that if something doesn’t fulfill our full expectations of what it should have been, could have been, or what other people tell us it is was supposed to be; then it was worthless and shouldn’t have happened. This type of thinking causes a sobering devaluation of life’s greatest experiences.
We owe it to ourselves to value our experiences (since they are ALL a part of our unique and once-lived life). Thus, there is a desperate need to eliminate all-or-nothing thinking patterns. If something was bad or difficult it does not mean it was worthless.
Sure this is cliché advice, it’s advice that we give each other all the time. Despite our understanding of this concept in the abstract, I still see all-or-nothing thinking permeate our singles culture and damage our ability to appreciate our experiences. Each of the topics listed below are suggestions aimed at helping us truly value each other and t…

A Phrase I Love

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There are some phrases that are universally good to hear like, “I love you,” or “you look really good today.” Although these examples are generally positive they have a different meaning for each person depending on their experiences.
The phrase that I have realized I most like to hear isn’t always, universally positive. But, based on my experiences, it is one of the highest compliments anyone can give me. I am one of the lucky people who are proud when they hear this phrase.
Whenever somebody says, “you are a lot like your dad,” I feel taller and stronger, like the withers of a horse.
Whenever somebody says, “you are a lot like your dad,” I feel more caring and sensitive to the needs of people I barely know.
Whenever somebody says, “you are a lot like your dad,” I feel capable of working tirelessly to make everything I touch better than it was when I found it.
Whenever somebody says, “you are a lot like your dad,” I feel like I know how to fix anything whether that’s a person, s…